5 big ideas for better small talk

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What is small talk and why is it important?

  1. Small talk is chatting with people. It is informal.
  2. Say “How are you?” Greetings start the exchange. It can become a longer conversation.
  3. Small talk is a way of showing respect. You are connecting with another person.
  4. It is a skill. You need it to socialize and build your network.
  5. It can show that you are interesting and open.

What do people talk about?

  1. The weather
    • Canadians like to talk about the weather.
      (read: Is it really colder than Mars? The truth about Manitoba weather).
    • It is always in people’s minds because the weather can change quickly. Winters can also be harsh.
    • Start a conversation by saying: “Nice weather we’re having today” or “Would you believe all this snow we’ve been having?”

    Newcomer tip:

    • Don’t complain harder when Canadians complain about winter.
    • Canadians are proud that they can survive extreme cold.
    • Don’t compare the weather in Canada with your home country’s weather. (For example: “The weather in my home country never gets as bad as this”). This is impolite.
  2. Work or profession
    • People like talking about their work. This is normal because it takes a lot of our time.
    • Talking about work can lead to networking.
    • You can say: “How was your day? “Did anything interesting happen at work today?”

    Newcomer tip:

    • Don’t be too aggressive even when you are networking.
    • Say that you are looking for work in a particular field. Or that you are an experienced ___ professional.
    • People will give you information or offer help without being asked.
  3. Current events and sports
    • News is a good topic for small talk. Avoid talking about politics.
    • Watch or listen to CBC or CTV to know the latest news. Read newspapers. You will have something to say when others ask you.
    • Sports is also a good topic. Hockey is big in Canada. Watch sports news or a live game.

    Newcomer tip:

    • Don’t pretend to know something you don’t!
    • It’s ok to say that you don’t fully understand the game.
    • Many people will be happy to explain the sport to you.
  4. Arts and entertainment
    • Hobbies and pastimes are good topics.
    • Talk about latest movies, TV shows, popular restaurants and books.

    Newcomer tip:

    • Respect other people’s likes and dislikes.
    • Be polite. Everyone has the right to choose what they like.
  5. They ask questions
    • Listening is just as important as speaking.
    • Don’t worry about what you need to say. Listen. Show interest in other people’s views.
    • Ask questions that start with “how” and “why.” It will encourage people to say more than a few words. For example: “How was your weekend?”
    • Ask for more details. For example, if you said “How are you?” and the person answers “I’m good, I just came back from vacation.” You can say “That’s great! Where or How did you spend your vacation?”

    Newcomer tip:

    • Be careful not to ask questions that are too personal.
    • Don’t ask personal questions if you are not close with the person.
    • Don’t ask questions about health, religion, politics, sex, and money.
    • Examples of what not to ask: “How much do you make?” or “How old are you?”

Ending the conversation

  1. Examples: “It was nice talking to you. Have a good day.” or “That was an interesting talk. It was nice catching up with you.”
  2. With more practice, you can develop your small talk skills in no time.

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Everyday Conversations

This is a dialogue between Aisha and her boss Elena. Aisha is on her coffee break. Elena comes into the room.

Aisha: Good morning Elena. How are you?

Elena: I’m good! And you?

Aisha: A little cold, but good. I think fall is almost here.

Elena: Yes, you’re right Aisha. I noticed that too.

Aisha:
Do you like fall?

Elena: Oh yes! I like it because everything looks so pretty. The leaves of the trees around my neighbourhood turn yellow, red, orange and brown. How about you?

Aisha: It’s my first fall in Manitoba. I am excited to experience it.

Elena: Oh wow. That’s a great attitude to have. I hope you’ll enjoy fall as much as I do.

Aisha: Thank you, Elena. I hope so too.


Notes:
Fall is also called “autumn” in other places. It is the season following summer. In Manitoba, fall comes in late- September to November. Temperatures start to go down to an average of 11.8°C to 24.8°C, to as low as -1°C to 9.8°C.

Talking about the weather is a common topic in Canada. People usually check the week’s weather to plan their activities, especially those that involve recreation.

When asking another person their opinion, you may use the shorter phrase “How about you?” The question is understood to mean (in this instance) “Do you like the fall too?”

Aside from “I’m excited to experience it” you can also say “I’m looking forward to it” to express your eagerness to experience something that is about to happen.

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